DR Iris, I don't believe time heals everything. It certainly dulls things and forgets what it wants, but it never heals. A word, a sight, a melody, a scent, a task . . . can bring back a memory of a lost loved one, and before you know it, you're on the floor in a flood of tears. I was once in a used record and CD shop when a song was played, and I held onto a bin of CDs trying and failing to not fall apart. I couldn't get out of that store gracefully or quickly enough.