While on my last tour in the Navy, I was on USS Kitty Hawk and we had a visitor fly to the ship to assist us in setting up media arrangements for our time in the Persian Gulf.
A list of "demands" was presented to my boss as to what we would be responsible for doing on a daily basis. My boss never said he wouldn't try to do any of them but expressed concerns about how he would accomplish everything with his 5-man shop.
The visitor said, "You can either help drive, or you can be driven."
My boss looked at him and said, "Is that the new 'phrase'?"
"Yes, and it's very effective," the visitor confirmed.
"Well, on this ship, you'll find there's only one driver. I ain't it and you ain't it. And if you try to drive, you're likely get seriously rear-ended."
That was the last we heard of "drive or be driven"...except when my boss wanted to unwind and have a good laugh.
The visitor turned out to be a pretty nice guy, after he saw how effectively my boss and I managed our resources and got things done. My favorite memory of him, though, is that he left his stateroom -- in only a towel and with a little toiletry kit -- to take a shower in the officer's head near his room.
He came to our office, wet hair and feet and a damp towel wrapped around him -- he had left his key in his room. We had about six international journalists in the office -- and the office was small -- so we all had a nice chuckle, including him.