Larry, I know it's hard and there isn't much to say that doesn't sound cliched or worse. Having gone through it with my father in 1993 I do think that if the hospice care is good, it can be one of the best things to come out of all this. I'm a big fan of hospice care, having seen what it did for my father and my family. Even if/when you're ready for it, the passing still hurts but good hospice care (both emotional and physical) can make the hurt more understandable even though it doesn't take away the pain.
{{{Lar}}}
Your New York crew is here if you need us (if I may be so presumptious as to speak for the New Yorkers here)