I think I have finally parsed through and can summarize the mentality of the internet age
IF YOU WANT TO TAKE AWAY MY LEGAL RIGHT TO BE AN ANONYMOUS, MEAN, HURTFUL PERSON
THAT MAKES YOU A BULLY!
I get how it's done now. It makes a lot click into place, about how people like the owners of theater chat sites have managed to paint the people who complain about the anonymous venom towards artists on their theater-chat sites as the villains who are trying to silence free speech, as opposed to the people who anonymously mistreat the artists being the villains.
Glad it finally clicked in

It's probably the main reason why I refuse to even look at, let alone post at various sites around the Web. If you don't like something but I do, I'm an idiot and if I don't like something and you do how dare you post anything bad about what I like, which, again, makes me an idiot. It's a losing game and a vicious circle and I'm better off not getting involved.