I'd mentioned that by totally bizarre coincidence (now has nothing to do with then) this lawyer Jeffrey whose back in our lives these days was someone I'd totally by coincidence dated back in the 1980s.
My mom called late last night. She's had a nagging feeling (mom and nagging in the same sentence, what are the odds?), and sure enough in a shoebox she'd packed up when they'd closed up the New York place in October is video of Jeffrey with our family, though my dad isn't there so we're wondering if it was while my dad was in the hospital, because there would be no other reason for my dad not to be at a family party. Nothing unusual that a family gathering's on video for us even back then, it was just it the back of her mind that as she was putting stuff away in October that something had been labeled about my friend Jeffrey. She's trying to figure out how to get a copy to me, but I don't want her to hurt the original. Totally unrelated, not sure i even want to see it. Mom says she can't tell from the video if I was even really out to the family at that point.