Then I came home and faced some unpleasant business I needed to attend to. As I was leaving Houston at around 11 p.m. last night, I saw a Facebook post from a friend's ex-husband in which he announced himself as gender queer, though he was quick to add that he wasn't gay. Whatever. He's still friends with a lot of her friends and I knew she didn't know this. So, I had to fill her in and listen to her go through a couple of stages of grief.
This is not easy for either of them.