DR John G, I'm sorry to read of your mother's death. I send my condolences to you and your family. My brothers refused, but I gave my day permission to die on Feb. 14, 2007. I told him I would honor his will and protect his wishes, and my final; words to him were "if Mom comes through that door and says, Come with me, old man, I want you to follow her."
Safe travels to you, old friend.