Continuing the gift-to-charty thing: In this situation, we'd always exchanged gifts every year for many many years, so it came as a real surprise to find this out on Dec. 22. A couple of other friends told me at the end of November that they wouldn't be doing Christmas gifts this year, and that's of course OK.
I'm not begrudging any charity their donation, but it seems like a donation was made and gift cards were handed over by the charity for the friend to send out. There was no thought, of course, to what charity I would like to have made a contribution to in my name.
(At least this is better than when my name and address has been given to a charity for the charity to send me the card directly, in which case I've ended up on multiplying mailing lists for similar charities and permanently getting the organizations' newsletters. I'm just not the type who can call a charity and say "take me off your list," and the transferring of the mailing list is just out of hand anyway, so it's become easier to just discard the mail.)