Topic: STRIDENT FISH (Read 5059 times)

vixmom · « **Reply #120 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:49:40 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 07:41:49 PM

There are fires?

I heard there were wild fires aroundphoenix. Did I mishear?

vixmom · « **Reply #121 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:50:57 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 07:41:33 PM

You are doing very well without me.

Yeah, I am doing great as long as you are not concerned with quality or clarity

vixmom · « **Reply #122 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:51:50 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 07:43:25 PM

Vixmom, you and your parents are in my prayers.

Thank you that means a lot to me

Laura · « **Reply #123 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:52:07 PM »

There is one on the road to Seven Springs. It is a long ways away from me, though.

vixmom · « **Reply #124 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:52:49 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 07:44:39 PM

I am fortunate that I never had to worry about that with my mother. But I wouldn't recommend having a parent be killed as an alternative.

Oh tommy I didn't mean to open that wound

Laura · « **Reply #125 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:53:00 PM »

My mother flat out refused to ever go to an assisted living place. My mother-in-law couldn't wait to get to hers. I hope your parents will be reasonable.

vixmom · « **Reply #126 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:53:51 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 07:44:53 PM

I am finding it very hard to type, seeing that Joshie is laying across my hands on the keyboard. I guess he missed me today.

It's nice to be loved .....sometimes

vixmom · « **Reply #127 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:55:09 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 07:52:07 PM

There is one on the road to Seven Springs. It is a long ways away from me, though.

I am sorry to hear there is a fire but I am very relieved that it is not near you

vixmom · « **Reply #128 on:** July 18, 2015, 07:56:41 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 07:53:00 PM

My mother flat out refused to ever go to an assisted living place. My mother-in-law couldn't wait to get to hers. I hope your parents will be reasonable.

Dad has dementia which has gotten very much worse in the past few months. Mom is still pretty much ok but caring for dad is really too much for her

vixmom · « **Reply #129 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:01:34 PM »

Well at least no one can say we did not get to,page five

TCB · « **Reply #130 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:02:42 PM »

T.O.D.

When I was five or six, my Aunt Ruth (my mom's sister) and the lady who lived in the apartment next door, decided to buy a house together. There was talk at the time that single women couldn't get funding for buying a house, and also that there was security in not living on their own.

However, as the year went on and they vacationed together every year, they went out to dinner and drinks together, and invited other female friends down for elaborate parties. They even had a big 25th anniversary party to "celebrate buying their house." I remember when I went to see the film THE KILLING OF SISTER GEORGE. The next day at breakfast my mom asked how I liked the movie. I said it was kind of like watching Ruth and Dorothy together. My sister chocked on her toast and my mom got up and started rinsing the dishes.

TCB · « **Reply #131 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:03:06 PM »

Sorry, I got long winded.

TCB · « **Reply #132 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:06:47 PM »

Quote from: vixmom on July 18, 2015, 07:52:49 PM

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 07:44:39 PM
I am fortunate that I never had to worry about that with my mother. But I wouldn't recommend having a parent be killed as an alternative.

Oh tommy I didn't mean to open that wound

No, it is okay. I have often wondered which is harder. Losing a parent in an instant, or watching them wither and die slowly over a period of years.

I'm sorry, that didn't come out sounding the way I meant it.

vixmom · « **Reply #133 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:11:33 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:06:47 PM

Quote from: vixmom on July 18, 2015, 07:52:49 PM
Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 07:44:39 PM
I am fortunate that I never had to worry about that with my mother. But I wouldn't recommend having a parent be killed as an alternative.

I know what you mean and I understand. I think it would havebenneasier if mt dad was physically ill. This loss of his ability to communicate, or care for himself.. It's like having a 5'9" 160 lb 2 year old

Oh tommy I didn't mean to open that wound

No, it is okay. I have often wondered which is harder. Losing a parent in an instant, or watching them wither and die slowly over a period of years.

I'm sorry, that didn't come out sounding the way I meant it.

TCB · « **Reply #134 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:11:38 PM »

Vixmom, there is a company that has been advertising lately (Kindred maybe?) that helps with families try to deal with those types of choices. I only paid attention to the commercials, because I was thinking about help for me.

vixmom · « **Reply #135 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:12:16 PM »

And my answer got buried inthatlast quote

vixmom · « **Reply #136 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:12:57 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:11:38 PM

Vixmom, there is a company that has been advertising lately (Kindred maybe?) that helps with families try to deal with those types of choices. I only paid attention to the commercials, because I was thinking about help for me.

Hmmm I wonder if they have that here I will have to look it up

TCB · « **Reply #137 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:13:45 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:11:38 PM

Vixmom, there is a company that has been advertising lately (Kindred maybe?) that helps with families try to deal with those types of choices. I only paid attention to the commercials, because I was thinking about help for me.

I can't count on my sister being around to make decisions about me, and if I put Larry in charge, he will have me committed tomorrow.

TCB · « **Reply #138 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:14:50 PM »

Quote from: vixmom on July 18, 2015, 08:12:57 PM

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:11:38 PM
Vixmom, there is a company that has been advertising lately (Kindred maybe?) that helps with families try to deal with those types of choices. I only paid attention to the commercials, because I was thinking about help for me.

Hmmm I wonder if they have that here I will have to look it up

I will watch for the commercials and try and get you a phone number.

Laura · « **Reply #139 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:14:56 PM »

I've had both happen, TCB. My dad died in an instant; my mother went downhill over many years. They were both hard. Dad was a shock -- he was not even 60 yet. Mom was 84, so it was not unexpected.

vixmom · « **Reply #140 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:14:59 PM »

I go have to say if I had the choice between dying with all my faculties of a disease like cancer Or having dementia at this moment I would absolutely choose the first

vixmom · « **Reply #141 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:15:38 PM »

Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:14:50 PM

Quote from: vixmom on July 18, 2015, 08:12:57 PM
Quote from: TCB on July 18, 2015, 08:11:38 PM
Vixmom, there is a company that has been advertising lately (Kindred maybe?) that helps with families try to deal with those types of choices. I only paid attention to the commercials, because I was thinking about help for me.

Hmmm I wonder if they have that here I will have to look it up

I will watch for the commercials and try and get you a phone number.

Thank you!

vixmom · « **Reply #142 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:16:44 PM »

Ok enough of being little Mary sunshine. The vixter needs me to help her with something. Good night all!

vixmom · « **Reply #143 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:17:06 PM »

And thank you. It helps so much to have you to talk to

TCB · « **Reply #144 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:18:08 PM »

Good night, Vixmom.

TCB · « **Reply #145 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:19:00 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 08:14:56 PM

I've had both happen, TCB. My dad died in an instant; my mother went downhill over many years. They were both hard. Dad was a shock -- he was not even 60 yet. Mom was 84, so it was not unexpected.

I am so sorry, Laura. There is no good way to lose your parents.

Laura · « **Reply #146 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:20:31 PM »

Well, TCB, it's just the way that life is. I can't imagine losing a child. Parents you expect to lose.

TCB · « **Reply #147 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:23:38 PM »

My eyes are doing much better today.

Laura · « **Reply #148 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:23:49 PM »

Young Wae-Ling found a couple extra good things on our hike today. She found a garter snake in the water, fungus beetles and their larvae, and best of all, several endangered tiger salamander larvae in a pond.

TCB · « **Reply #149 on:** July 18, 2015, 08:25:01 PM »

Quote from: Laura on July 18, 2015, 08:20:31 PM

Well, TCB, it's just the way that life is. I can't imagine losing a child. Parents you expect to lose.

I know. And you are correct. But expecting to lose a parent, and actually losing them are two different things.

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