As to the Macbeths, DR FJL, Randy thinks Lady M is the one who wants to be there. Ity will give her something "classy" to boast to her few friends. I have no doubt that my brother wants some sort of reconciliation, but the event next week is not the place and, as far as my feelings go, the moment has passed.
The time for any rapprochement was in 2007 when we settled my dad's estate, but Lady M refused. She really had no business putting herself into a conflict with three brothe's over their father's estate and Macbeth should have told her to butt out. I waited until 2009 for some effort on their part, gave up, and then in 2010 removed them from my will. To my thinking, I have one brother eleven years young than I and a brother who died in 2007, about six months after my father.
Jo told me that if the Macbeths show up, she will not.