Just catching up on yesterday's posts... Joey, the loss of my grandmother was the single most painful event of my life - almost 18 years ago by now. And as time has passed, the feeling of "loss" has subsided - and the abundance of wonderful memories has taken its place. Funny, happy, joyous moments with her come unbidden at the unlikliest times - and I find myself smiling, laughing, humming along. Death is an illusion, they live forever in our hearts.