So sorry about your dental predicament, Vixmom. Do you know of any holistic dentists? I had a problem some years ago with major erosion of the enamel of eight teeth (tongue-side). My dentist could only offer a coating, which I tried but it barely lasted six months. She said nothing else could be done. I found a holistic dentist, who made eight “reverse veneers” for me. Not cheap — about the price of eight crowns — but I’ve had them for ten years or so with no issues. This won’t solve your bone structure problem, but they may know of something that will. Holistic dentists have the all training as traditional dentists, but have taken additional coursework and can offer additional services as a result. My advice would be to do some digging and don’t give up!