And that's why MBarnum's mom is in "the home." 
LOL!
Although quite honestly, if I could afford a larger home..one where we could both have our own space... I would be fine with having my mom live with me. But I am remembering over that last year or so since she moved to Salem, exactly why it is I have never been that close to her.
I love her and we spend time together...we have dinner and I help her run errands every Wednesday...and I feel I have a duty towards her, but I have never felt any kind of a bond between us. My sister feels the same way as I do and presumably so do my brothers, although we have never talked about it...but neither of my parents (nor my older sibling's father) were very close to their children. In fact when my father died in 2001 he hadn't seen his kids from his first marriage in close to 20 years and none of them came to his funeral despite their all living in Oregon.
Oddly enough all of my siblings have very close and happy relationships with their own kids, which is wonderful. They did not want to pass down the tradition (my mom, aunts and uncle were not all that fond of their own mother).
So there you go...more info about my family organization then you ever wanted to know. I feel no guilt about my relationship, or lack there-of, with my parents.
As I always say...you pick your friends and you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family.