I have a habit of living with various aspects of a decision before I really make the decision. So, I did some checking out of what space is available, I brainstormed the possible ways we could have space for Sandy, I worked with building maintenance guys on the sound problems, I decided to move my office as a last ditch attempt to make the space work for all of us and then I really thought about all the negatives of going forward with the sharing on a long term basis. There were just too many negatives and I was giving up too much for me to be happy. So the decision was made.
This process works well for me, but it tends to confuse others and drive everyone around me crazy. They think I keep changing my mind, but really I haven't made my decision yet. I always know when I've made the final decision and it doesn't change after that, but others...well...they don't always get it.
So, he may be surprised.