What might even bother me more than the flute stuff is that the invitation specifically talks about bringing something for the buffet. So, my email to her was about cooking and sent within an hour or two of receiving the invitation. She said no, I didn't need to bring any food just my flute. What? I'm a good cook. Anything I've ever taken to a party has all been eaten, not a crumb left. I really wanted to cook and be a part of that aspect of the party.