Topic: WE'RE ALL JUST TREADERS IN THE SWIMMING POOL OF LIFE (Read 12451 times)

Jeanne · « **Reply #150 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:34:28 PM »

Very nice photo of John G and his mom.

Jeanne · « **Reply #151 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:35:51 PM »

Congrats to Elmore on the new computer. And you even had fun shopping!!!

Jane · « **Reply #152 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:39:32 PM »

Hi Jeanne.

Jeanne · « **Reply #153 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:47:06 PM »

Quote from: Ginny on July 12, 2023, 04:13:47 PM

Wednesday evening greetings! We took 3 boxes and 2 bags of clothes to Goodwill today.

It’s a start…

I know what that’s like!

DR Ginny, if I understood correctly, you are buying a home in a retirement community, but renovation is included in the purchase price. Is that right? Will it be your names on the deed? I’m familiar with condo associations, but not what you describe. Is this a standard arrangement in Ohio? Are there restrictions on the exterior, such as certain colors?

Vibes for your culling and transition.

Jeanne · « **Reply #154 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:47:28 PM »

Hi, Jane.

Jeanne · « **Reply #155 on:** July 12, 2023, 04:57:12 PM »

Quote from: Jane on July 12, 2023, 10:27:12 AM

From Jeanne:
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Believe me, he can be quite annoying and has criticized me a number of times for not keeping my car clean like he does his. And other things. At least today it worked in my favor.

Oh! Have you explained to him why it is difficult for you to keep your car clean? Fingers crossed that now he knows it is ok with you he will clean your car more often.

Several years ago I explained that I have permanent injuries in my shoulders. He made a joke of it and laughed it off, which I didn’t find funny. He loves to talk but doesn’t listen.

His motivation in hosing down my car has nothing to do with my needs — it’s from his OCD. When I purchased the car I was dealing with some cardiac issues and was even wearing a holter monitor that day ( a cardiac test). For the next few months I had a steady stream of test, consultation, another test, another consultation. Washing my car wasn’t even on my radar. He chewed me out for not taking care of my car and hosed it down. Had he done it out of consideration, that would have been appreciated. Or had he asked. He didn’t. I didn’t appreciate it. It wasn’t even all that dirty. It was his need to control. I’ve offered to pay him to wash it, but he wasn’t interested, even though it doesn’t take long once he’s doing his. At least twice he’s said he doesn’t want a dirty car next to his clean car. (Contagion?) I make double sure the skylight is closed and all the windows are up when I park it, knowing that he might decide it’s too dirty.

Jeanne · « **Reply #156 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:16:55 PM »

TTFN.

John G. · « **Reply #157 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:19:02 PM »

I am enjoying Skyline for dinner

Ginny · « **Reply #158 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:29:48 PM »

Quote from: Jeanne on July 12, 2023, 04:47:06 PM

Quote from: Ginny on July 12, 2023, 04:13:47 PM
Wednesday evening greetings! We took 3 boxes and 2 bags of clothes to Goodwill today.

It’s a start…

I know what that’s like!

DR Ginny, if I understood correctly, you are buying a home in a retirement community, but renovation is included in the purchase price. Is that right? Will it be your names on the deed? I’m familiar with condo associations, but not what you describe. Is this a standard arrangement in Ohio? Are there restrictions on the exterior, such as certain colors?

Vibes for your culling and transition.

DR Jeanne, we’re “buying into” the retirement community, but we won’t own the house. There is an option just to rent, but that gives you next to no input into the renovation. By paying the entry fee, we were able to ask for a lot (and get most), plus we’ll have access to the “continuum of care” when we need things like assisted living, skilled nursing, or memory care.

Thanks for the vibes - so far, so good.

Jane · « **Reply #159 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:36:01 PM »

Quote from: Jeanne on July 12, 2023, 04:57:12 PM

Quote from: Jane on July 12, 2023, 10:27:12 AM
From Jeanne:
Quote
Believe me, he can be quite annoying and has criticized me a number of times for not keeping my car clean like he does his. And other things. At least today it worked in my favor.

Oh! Have you explained to him why it is difficult for you to keep your car clean? Fingers crossed that now he knows it is ok with you he will clean your car more often.

Several years ago I explained that I have permanent injuries in my shoulders. He made a joke of it and laughed it off, which I didn’t find funny. He loves to talk but doesn’t listen.

His motivation in hosing down my car has nothing to do with my needs — it’s from his OCD. When I purchased the car I was dealing with some cardiac issues and was even wearing a holter monitor that day ( a cardiac test). For the next few months I had a steady stream of test, consultation, another test, another consultation. Washing my car wasn’t even on my radar. He chewed me out for not taking care of my car and hosed it down. Had he done it out of consideration, that would have been appreciated. Or had he asked. He didn’t. I didn’t appreciate it. It wasn’t even all that dirty. It was his need to control. I’ve offered to pay him to wash it, but he wasn’t interested, even though it doesn’t take long once he’s doing his. At least twice he’s said he doesn’t want a dirty car next to his clean car. (Contagion?) I make double sure the skylight is closed and all the windows are up when I park it, knowing that he might decide it’s too dirty.

I figured if he understood why your car is dirty he wouldn't berate you for it. I would think with his issues he would be begging you to let him wash your car out of kindness to both of you.

You are smart to keep your car ready for a washing, just in case-lol One thing, you never need to feel bad about him doing the work for you, or feel you need to do something nice for him

Jane · « **Reply #160 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:36:46 PM »

Quote from: John G. on July 12, 2023, 05:19:02 PM

I am enjoying Skyline for dinner

Is Skyline at your mother's place?

Jane · « **Reply #161 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:38:09 PM »

Quote from: Ginny on July 12, 2023, 05:29:48 PM

Quote from: Jeanne on July 12, 2023, 04:47:06 PM
Quote from: Ginny on July 12, 2023, 04:13:47 PM
Wednesday evening greetings! We took 3 boxes and 2 bags of clothes to Goodwill today.

It’s a start…

I know what that’s like!

DR Ginny, if I understood correctly, you are buying a home in a retirement community, but renovation is included in the purchase price. Is that right? Will it be your names on the deed? I’m familiar with condo associations, but not what you describe. Is this a standard arrangement in Ohio? Are there restrictions on the exterior, such as certain colors?

Vibes for your culling and transition.

DR Jeanne, we’re “buying into” the retirement community, but we won’t own the house. There is an option just to rent, but that gives you next to no input into the renovation. By paying the entry fee, we were able to ask for a lot (and get most), plus we’ll have access to the “continuum of care” when we need things like assisted living, skilled nursing, or memory care.

Thanks for the vibes - so far, so good.

It is very similar to a nice place in Medford, OR that friends moved to. If needed, can you get short term extra assistance and meals delivered to you?

Jane · « **Reply #162 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:39:00 PM »

I need to go for a short walk or I will have an uncomfortable repeat of last night. Thank goodness walking helps relieve the pain.

singdaw · « **Reply #163 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:42:35 PM »

Great photo, DR John G.!

singdaw · « **Reply #164 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:42:47 PM »

How long are you there with your mom?

singdaw · « **Reply #165 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:44:12 PM »

singdaw · « **Reply #166 on:** July 12, 2023, 05:46:55 PM »

vixmom · « **Reply #167 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:11:45 PM »

Good morning!

vixmom · « **Reply #168 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:11:54 PM »

Um afternoon…

vixmom · « **Reply #169 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:12:20 PM »

Evening?

vixmom · « **Reply #170 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:12:31 PM »

It’s been a day

vixmom · « **Reply #171 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:13:06 PM »

Hot as blazes and humidity at 247%

vixmom · « **Reply #172 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:13:15 PM »

Approximately

vixmom · « **Reply #173 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:13:41 PM »

I drove all the way out to the courthouse for jury selection

vixmom · « **Reply #174 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:14:09 PM »

Parked and trudged through the heavy air to the courthouse

vixmom · « **Reply #175 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:14:38 PM »

Went through the metal detector three times and finally was wanded

vixmom · « **Reply #176 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:14:59 PM »

Seems my Bobby pins and eyeglasses set it off

singdaw · « **Reply #177 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:15:30 PM »

I was addicted to Hokey Pokey. Thankfully, I turned myself around.

vixmom · « **Reply #178 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:16:13 PM »

Then I found the jury room where I was told they filled the jury this morning and my services would not be needed

singdaw · « **Reply #179 on:** July 12, 2023, 06:16:52 PM »

Quote from: vixmom on July 12, 2023, 06:14:59 PM

my Bobby pins

You were planning to set some convicts free, weren't you?

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