Cilla or anyone who knows stuff like this, I'm wondering, have you ever heard any "rule" like this:
One of the cyber stalkers is an attorney and it looks like they've been trying to be careful that the stalking posts didn't cross any criminal boundaries, so the stalkers are of course hoping it's all civil. Strangest example: there have been actual postings of obits and death statements about me. A cop told me after I read him oine of them that simply by having added "just kidding" to an otherwise horrifically descriptive post about me (naming me) as having been found dead in my Manhattan apartment, a public posting which otherwise could have caused enough concern form an investigation - simply by the poster having added two words "JUST KIDDING" which he did - was possibly seen as just a joke instead of being meant as a threat.
That's the rule of thumb I was told by this cop on the phone when i read him the posting, when a lawyer is doung the stalking! but doesn't this suggest that someone could say the most terrible thing and add "in my opinion" or "just kidding" and get off free.
Although, come to think of it, "in my opinion" pretty much gets someone off from defamation , deosn;t it?