Topic: DEATH AND OTHER MATTERS (Read 23880 times)

bk · « **on:** April 06, 2013, 12:06:01 AM »

Well, you've read the notes, the notes spoke of death and other matters in a lively way, and now it is time for you to post until the cows come home - they're currently at a funeral and then they'll be in MOOrning.

bk · « **Reply #1 on:** April 06, 2013, 12:06:33 AM »

And the word of the day is: GEST!

Ben · « **Reply #2 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:08:48 AM »

Morning all.

That is all.

FJL · « **Reply #3 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:23:12 AM »

Morning.

Jrand74 · « **Reply #4 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:27:05 AM »

Saturday morning. It is a work day. Oh well.

Jrand74 · « **Reply #5 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:34:37 AM »

TOD:

I am expecting that when I go....which at my age will be sooner rather than later - there will be a big wake and garage sale.

I do have my stuff distributed per my will.....and my $$ go to my family and to the theatre where I have been working these last 34 years....

I have a plot in a cemetery called Sugar Grove. My great grandfather donated the land and built the church that is on it many, many years ago....at the beginning of the 20th century - so his descendants can be buried there if they wish. I have many relatives there. It is very peaceful with lots of trees and grass and flowers. I drive by it twice a day when I go to the theatre - which is kind of creepy.

A short service with friends speaking - and some music - and a gathering afterwards. This is an article that the local newspaper editor wrote about a gathering we had for my friend Ernie back in 2011.....that would be an okay example to follow....some nice remembrances and forgiveness for the mistakes....and a little article in the newspaper for others to clip and save.

http://www.bannergraphic.com/story/1734320.html

elmore3003 · « **Reply #6 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:50:35 AM »

Good morning, all!

This is a day of adventure for me. Bruce Pomahac and I are taking a train to Connecticut this morning to see a matinee of Victor Herbert's THE RED MILL performed by some local operetta group. I am curious to hear the "edition" used and see how it plays to an audience. I hope the cast is good. I will meet Bruce at Grand Central Station at 10:45 and the fun begins.

I haven't given much thought to my death beyond a will and the plots at Woodlawn Cemetery my father purchased for me, himself, my brothers, and several cousins following my mother's death in 1994. I expect at the funeral there will be armed guards to prevent the large crowd from rushing the coffin to nail it shut.

Jrand74 · « **Reply #7 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:59:06 AM »

HA! Coffin nails will be no deterrent to some of us after we go....let them quake in their bed! I shall return!

Jrand74 · « **Reply #8 on:** April 06, 2013, 04:59:35 AM »

HA!

Do have a nice trip DR ELMORE - to the theatre, I mean.

Jrand74 · « **Reply #9 on:** April 06, 2013, 05:16:48 AM »

I am off to work. Oh well.....

elmore3003 · « **Reply #10 on:** April 06, 2013, 05:27:16 AM »

Quote from: Jrand62 on April 06, 2013, 04:59:35 AM

HA!

Do have a nice trip DR ELMORE - to the theatre, I mean.

Thank you, DR JRand62!

ChasSmith · « **Reply #11 on:** April 06, 2013, 06:35:57 AM »

Good morning, all.

Oy! It seems Death is everywhere this week. (Explanation forthcoming.)

ChasSmith · « **Reply #12 on:** April 06, 2013, 06:57:20 AM »

I couldn't believe it when I saw the title of the notes today. It's just one of those weeks when it seems like it's all around us.

Late yesterday afternoon I got gut-punched as I listened to a phone message from a gal we know who rescues cats and who had been the source for one of the little critters right here in this household. Our beloved vet, Dr. Thomas Nero, had died on Thursday. This was incomprehensible. Several close friends and I, cat owners and faithful clientele of Dr. Nero, feel as though this is hitting us more strongly than if we'd heard one of our own doctors had died so suddenly and unexpectedly. We didn't know him personally to any degree, but just being around him, chatting with him about various interests, and of course entrusting him with the care of our beloved animals had always been a privilege.

He was an exceptional doctor, and the clinic and boarding facility he founded some twenty years ago is considered the very best around. He had just moved the practice into a larger facility a couple of blocks down the road from the original site, and when I heard this I jumped in the car and went down to see if anyone was there. It was my first time in the new place, and it was just gorgeously designed.

An assistant said they don't know a hell of a lot about what happened, but he had been out somewhere, had possibly seemed disoriented to someone or other, and later was found unresponsive somewhere nearby. He had no partners in the practice, so it is probably going to be up to his wife to decide what happens with the business. We can only hope for another highly respected doctor to take it over and continue the mission of highest quality cat care in the area.

He would have turned 58 in May, and this is just a cruel loss of someone who did so much good. RIP, Dr. Nero.

http://www.danburycatclinic.com/about/

John G. · « **Reply #13 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:00:48 AM »

Good morning, all.

Very sorry for your loss, ChasSmith.

John G. · « **Reply #14 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:04:08 AM »

TOD:

I would like as little money as possible spent on the disposal of my remains. Hopefully, science will have a use for the body.

But I also believe that no one will remember or pay attention to that wish any more than they will pay attention to the music I want at whatever service there will be. And who knows when they will find the written instructions that are with my will.

As I won't be around, it doesn't really bother me.

John G. · « **Reply #15 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:04:20 AM »

Now, off to start taxes.

ChasSmith · « **Reply #16 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:05:41 AM »

TOD

Cremation, and no maudlin funeral service, please. Wait till the dust settles (or the ashes, hahaha) and have an upbeat memorial.

While I don't plan on going anywhere, anytime soon, I am remiss in having not yet made a will. I know this is something that simply must be done.

Charles Pogue · « **Reply #17 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:05:54 AM »

TOD:

When I'm dead, I won't really care what happens after. I'll be dead. It'll be somebody else's problem, won't it? But I don't see much point in digging a hole and slapping up a headstone for a mouldering corpse or paying for an expensive coffin no one's going to see. Let's not waste the ground space. Put me in the cheapest box allowable and burn me. Then have a party and celebrate, don't mourn. My business people keep telling me to make a will for the distribution of my stuff. I keep avoiding it.

Actually I'd like a Viking's funeral ala BEAU GESTE or THE VIKINGS. But don't burn a faithful dog at my feet, just have the ashes of all my already deceased dogs at my feet.

ChasSmith · « **Reply #18 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:08:45 AM »

Right, DR John G., I typed that hastily. Donation of whatever they can use, and cremation of the rest.

The tough part for me is thinking about where I'd like to designate the aforementioned ashes to go. Scatter 'em? If so, where? Place in a grave site or memorial? I just don't know.

Druxy · « **Reply #19 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:22:37 AM »

TOD:

My wife and I plan to be cremated and interred together in the mausoleum at Hillside in Los Angeles.

It's the one behind the Al Jolson statue, which seems fitting since I wrote a play about him.

Hopefully, that won't be any time soon.

Kerry · « **Reply #20 on:** April 06, 2013, 07:58:30 AM »

TOD:
Divvy up the parts for whoever may use them. Give the rest to medical research, and burn anything that's left. No obit. No service. And send a chosen group of people to dinner somewhere nice.

Matthew · « **Reply #21 on:** April 06, 2013, 08:16:22 AM »

Long day today. I'll probably be quite E&T. Last thing on the agenda is seeing "The Blue Man Group" - first time, and probably the last. But I'm going with someone who really wants to see it. It's more his thing anyway. I'll just try and stay awake, I guess.

vixmom · « **Reply #22 on:** April 06, 2013, 08:34:57 AM »

A few years ago when I was a little more concerned that my departure may be imminent I gave some serious thought to this TOD

FJL · « **Reply #23 on:** April 06, 2013, 08:41:26 AM »

Honestly, Jonathan Frank and the friends and co-workers of hisfrom that "Stalkin Broadway" site killed the person who was Fred at some point back in 2012. It's hard to tell what date, but by the end of that year, he was gone. There's simply no way around it. I basically was a happy, joyful person who 95+% saw the good in life, with only sporadic bits of negativity (just about all the negative money-minded and business-oriented, not personal).

Today, sitting at "Passion" the other night, I saw in Fosca's behavior so many elements of what I've become as a result of even our good friends at City Center Encores having taken Jonathan Frank's side against someone who has supported and been friends of theirs for decades now. Thanks heavens for Skip and my true friends and family members.

I feel for the first time in my life that there are people in the world who would be happy to see me die, mainly because they have said so much. Before 2012, I never felt there were any such people. Our supposed friends have chosen business concerns over daring to say a word to the City Center marketing department, whose motivations for backing Mr, Frank their videographer (and the Talkin Broadway company they hypocritically insist to me I shouldn't care so much about being part of) so fiercely stymie me.

So since I feel like I've died already, this is what I'm doing with the body - just trying to keep it preserved while waiting to see how evrything turns out.

bk · « **Reply #24 on:** April 06, 2013, 09:01:04 AM »

I'm up, I'm up - I've barely been asleep. One of the most annoying nights ever. I just could not fall asleep, which is becoming SOP for the night before a stumble-through. I don't know that I slept more than three hours. My nose was running, I was phlegm-y, it was awful. I think I fell asleep around six and just got up. Whether I can sing for the stumble-through or not is anyone's guess - if I don't feel I'm up to it, I'll skip the number and just do it at the show IF I feel up to it tomorrow. I hate when this happens.

MBarnum · « **Reply #25 on:** April 06, 2013, 09:42:02 AM »

TOD:

I have instructed my family to donate my body to science. By having that done I also get a free cremation of what is left over.

As I am not fond of funerals or memorials, and I know that many others feel the same, I prefer not to have any ceremony. No need to put others through that plus there is always that fear that no one will show up. An obit will be fine, although I think I would like to write it myself.

I still need to get a will written out.

Ben · « **Reply #26 on:** April 06, 2013, 09:52:33 AM »

Deb, I forgot to say thanks for checking the streaming list at Netflix.

vixmom · « **Reply #27 on:** April 06, 2013, 09:52:37 AM »

I decided that if there was anything usable that it should be used - the rest to be cremated.

I do not want a wake or a burial or ash scattering ceremony my survivors can do whatever tehy want withteh ashes - throw 'em out - scatter them wherever they want -- stick 'em in a vase

however I would like a memorial church service.

The service is not as much for me as for those I leave behind- I believe funerals should be for the survivors - it is a way to say goodbye and provide some closure and peace

and I do have some traditional hymns I would like sung

ChasSmith · « **Reply #28 on:** April 06, 2013, 10:03:11 AM »

I recently acquired the UK Blu-ray of Orson Welles's THE TRIAL, a long-time favorite. This disc is a winner. What a pleasure to finally have a GREAT transfer of one of the films that have suffered so horribly in home video, and even revival house prints, for all these years.

Before watching it, I took out my Roan Group gold plated laserdisc to see what it looked like now, because I hadn't watched it since long before having an HD screen. For a laserdisc, it's certainly still serviceable. Some of them are still perfectly watchable, upscaled to HD, and others just aren't, so it's a crapshoot. But the several Roans I have are so beautifully presented and collectible that I'm still hanging on to every one of 'em.

But I was very pleasantly surprised to find a special bonus on this one: liner notes by one DR Druxy!

Jane · « **Reply #29 on:** April 06, 2013, 10:14:47 AM »

Quote from: Jrand62 on April 06, 2013, 04:34:37 AM

I have a plot in a cemetery called Sugar Grove. My great grandfather donated the land and built the church that is on it many, many years ago....at the beginning of the 20th century - so his descendants can be buried there if they wish. I have many relatives there. It is very peaceful with lots of trees and grass and flowers.

I think this is very special. I'm sure I would spend time walking through there and "visiting" my family.

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