Has anyone ever tried lucid dreaming? It's where you make yourself aware that you are dreaming while you are still dreaming and you make whatever you what to happen occur in your dream. The two or three times that I was actually able to do this led to the kind of dreams I can't discuss here. But it's been suggested to me that I should attempt it in my more anxiety-ridden dreams and perhaps fly up into the oncoming tornado or to welcome in and embrace whoever it is that is trying to force their way into my front door. I don't know if I have the guts to do that, even in my dreams.
I have experienced dreams in which I saw or met people I would "later" meet and get to know very well. I have had dreams in which I got some closure by speaking with "deceased" friends (never a relative, though). I have had dreams in which I worked out my feelings about various people, finding myself in a typical situation with that person in which I felt conflicted, only to find myself at a remove and aware of the source of my conflicts. The dream (or my subconscious) was bitch-slapping me into seeing these people for who or what they were/are.
I have tried giving myself dream-inducing instructions, stating what it was I wanted to dream about and what I wanted the dream to resolve for me. To date, though, none of those "dream-it-and-solve-it" demands have been fruitful.
Happily, I've only wanted this kind of help a couple of times...and each issue worked itself out anyway.
Pet lovers will appreciate this: I have had dreams about my cats. My last was a couple of weeks before Miss Vickie passed on. My dearly departed cat Dickens, for whom I adopted Miss Vickie as a companion, came to me in a dream. He was walking around the condo, scoping things out. Vickie was asleep in her bed. I uttered a shout of "Dickens! Is that you?" Dickens walked over to me and jumped into my lap. He put his paws on my chest and looked me in the eyes. I stroked him and he purred. I could tell he had a message for me. I sensed, and then asked him, if he were "here" to get Vickie! He vanished, and I woke up.