As the end of the year approaches, my one real regret is that after looking back many many times on the actual initial exchange that started my one mystifying rift for 2009 (and actually the decade), I honestly can't figure out what I did wrong that actually started the rift - though I do see where it got nasty about two exchanges after that initial exchange.
Meanwhile, I've seen nasty cruel things said to the person with whom i had the rift, and what I would consider IMHO unfeeling inconsiderate things said to others by that person, with no apparent impact on other interpersonal relationships.
I've had some other rifts in my life, but always understood what precipitated them. This one is all in writing/typing, all in cyber-writing where it can be analyzed, and the start of it makes no sense to me - and I guess it's my loss, because what i said clearly had a harsher impact than some IMHO pretty horrible, inconsiderate things that have been said to and by this person - so it must be a flaw in me that i simply do not understand it.
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Hmmm, I've said that and I'm still not feeling better.