Haines His Way

I have never seen CAMP & don’t plan to now.  I don’t watch the current reality shows.  I once watched half an hour of BIG BROTHER, the sole purpose, to see my cousin’s name as producer in the credits.  I’m not close to my cousin anymore so I’ve never talked to him about the show.  

I did watch most of the early talk shows: PEOPLE ARE FUNNY, TRUTH OR CONSEQUENCES, YOU ASKED FOR IT, WHAT'S MY LINE, TO TELL THE TRUTH, I'VE GOT A SECRET, CANDID CAMERA, YOU ARE THERE,  PERSON TO PERSON and JEOPARDY.  

JRand53 THE COMEDY OF ERRORS is directed by Bill Rauch, whom I am not familiar with.  If it were by Libby Appel I would truly hesitate to go.  

Panni I would like an evening with relatives from my past.  I would like to meet my mother’s father, whom I never met (due to a very sad tale).  I would like to meet my father’s grandfather or any relative who can tell me where to find the connections, proving I am related to a very famous rabbi known as the Goan of Vilna.  

DR Jane:  You echo my sentiments exactly.  My family history is shrouded in mystery, as my father and his brothers (and one sister who sadly later committed suicide before I was born) were semi-orphaned (their Mom died and their Dad decided he could not take care of all the kids by himself) at an early age and put in foster care.  My sister managed, by Divine Intervention, to find incredible family records in London years ago when she lived over there, and we too are related to several famous rabbis (in England).

I just recently managed to track down the foster home where my Dad and his siblings were kept and they sent me absolutely heartbreaking information, including the fact that we have (had?) an Aunt we never knew about who was evidently put up for adoption when the other kids were put into foster care.  This lack of knowledge about my "roots" has always been a gaping hole in my soul for some reason.  Maybe you can understand, too.

Jane, Tomovoz and JMK - Yes, I really understand - or feel - what you're talking about. I always envy people who can rattle off the family tree. On the other hand, those of us for whom it's a mystery, have the infinite capacity of our imaginations to fill in the gaps. I have no idea of who any of my relatives are on my father's side and will probably never find out.
I had an older cousin who, although quite normal in other respects, came out of the Holocaust with what I suppose was some kind of protective mechanism (she and her sister were experinted on by Mengele - her sister was killed) - she was convinced that our family came from European royalty - not Jewish royalty, of course. She would go into the most elaborate tales of who was related to whom. And unless you knew the truth it made perfect sense!

, proving I am related to a very famous rabbi known as the Goan of Vilna.  

Oy! I'm impressed!

I've just read, in Friday's Daily Variety, a very thoughtful review of the new Fiddler. The reviewer calls it Chekovian and makes me want to see it.

If this isn't too personal, were you happy with what you discovered and did they welcome you into the fold?

Mostly a positive experience. I am quite close to my full younger brother and his family. My mother and I have "drifted" a little. My father (not with my mother) has been fine but he is now 95. I am the closest to my father's son from his first marriage and his children and grandchildren. My half-brother and I are similar in so many ways. I was also forunate enough to meet my mother's mother a few years before she died. I visited her quite a few times and we were good friends. She had not known of my existence!

Thank you for answering, Tomovoz.

A pleasure Panni/Anna. The conversations in the UK movie  "Secrets and Lies" were very realistic. The first meeting between mother and daughter was "spot on".

Is there a screenplay here?

Yes. "Secrets and Lies"  ...Unless you focused on the fascinating relationship between to old lady and the man who is the father of her daughter's child. Might be a wonderful novel first.

My father and his mother-in-law were only a few years apart in age. My father was an amateur entertainer (a ventriloquist) and had a joke about everything. He could make my grandmother laugh so easily - people think the elderly will be offended by "dirty jokes". They are not!   Another side story for the novel. My two brothers hanged the ventriloquist doll at one stage!

Having not discovered my birth family until only 10 years ago, I fully appreciate the need for filling that "gaping hole".  The knowledge of "self" is so important and people without "the gaping hole" don't seem to understand that.

Can we amend that to "many people without the gaping hole," Tomovoz?  I've known about my family history, on both sides, for what seems forever, but for some reason the two men I've had as lovers share having been adopted as part of their pasts.  (That they also share being from Pennsylvania, having had children, and served in the military suggests that I've got a bizarre, obscure "type" with which I fall in love.   )

Jason, my first lover, had been able to track down his birth family to a little town in Ireland.  Apparently, there was some concern among his brethren that he would attempt to claim part of the family inheritance, and it took him some time (and several pints) to convince them otherwise.  After that, there was quite a bit of celebrating (and several more pints).  So I know the look he got in his eyes, every time he told me of it.  I could hear the sound of his voice in what you wrote.

Der Brucer's story is best told his way, of course.  But there is something in the eyes and the voice...

Anyone sensitive to the lives of those close to them should be able to understand.  I suppose there are those who only care about their own stories, and never bother to listen to anyone else's.  I'd like to think I'm not part of this second group.

DR Michael Shayne, I remember the series Sirens! Did you work on it at the same time the John Terlesky was on it? If so would you mind telling me everything there is to know about the man (one of my few modern day favorite actors)!

No. He did not make it to the syndicated version. He was replaced by Claude Genest (sp?) who was later written out of the series. The syndicated version only lasted a season.

Good evening everyone!

I received my tour bookand maps from AAA.  I think I am going to be very pleased with the hotel I chose.  From cross referencing the maps, it does look like I am in the heart of a lot of GREAT points of interest and just across the street from concert hall.  :-)

I'm very excited about the carriage tours I read about.  If I ever make to NYC, I want to take one in Central Park.  I didn't know there would be one in SLC.  

Now, I'm kinda sorry I didn't stay an extra day or two.  I don't know if I will have time to do/see everything I want to.  We'll see.    

I'll be sure to take lots of pictures and will have quite a tale to tell I'm sure.

I'm already making my list of things to get for the trip.  I'm mostly worried about the weather.  I saw on the temp. chart in the tour book that May in SLC runs from 45 to 72.  It was 45 in Tampa last night and that was COLD for me!  

DR Denise - great fish picture and Congrats on the diet....you have inspired me to try....  AND I am on that Ticketmaster ticket list, and you only get something once a week or so AND there is an option in each email to discontinue being on the list...and link to click...so it is easy to remove yourself....as I have been told so often to do.

I'm glad you like my fish, JRand.  I think he's pretty special myself.    

All I can say about the diet is, "Go for it!".  It never hurts to try.  I have to laugh at the timing.  I honestly didn't start the diet because of going on these trips.  It was because of what the Doctor said about my BP (which is also going down).  But I won't say that I'm unhappy with it!

Thanks also for the Ticketmaster tip.  I want to know the instant the tickets go on sale so I be on the phone to get them.  Does that e-mail tell you ahead of time when the event your interested in is going to go on sale?



DERBRUCER said:

Danise was happy to state:

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My face seems to be where I notice it the most.  
 

Between your ears, we trust. We would all be chagrined should you lose your face.

She also confessed:
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...my Mom used to pack Ketchup and cheese for my lunch.  I HATED them.
 

The Ketchup  the cheese and Mom?

I don't know about the between the ears--I'm rather happy to be seeing my cheek bones again.    I'm also losing my urge to crow like rooster with a waddle.  

As far as the ketchup and cheese sandwiches--Yes I did hate them.  And sometimes Mom for packing them.  Yuck.  Having said that, I had a toasted cheese sandwich (low fat cheese and low carb bread with I Can't Believe It's Not Butter) for dinner tonight.

I can understand how it feels to be cut off or not have family.  All I have is my Mother, the dogs and the fish.  When I have dark thoughts, I torture myself with thinking about what I'll do when my Mom is gone and I have an accident.  "Is there someone we can call for you?" they'll ask.  What will I say?  

I'm not much on those shows either.  I do like some game shows.  I have way to many favorites both old and new to name.  Right now, I like "Lingo" and "Who Wants to be a Millionare?".

 

My father and his mother-in-law were only a few years apart in age. My father was an amateur entertainer (a ventriloquist) and had a joke about everything. He could make my grandmother laugh so easily - people think the elderly will be offended by "dirty jokes". They are not!   Another side story for the novel. My two brothers hanged the ventriloquist doll at one stage!

So why don't you write the novel, Tomovoz? Or the non-fiction autobiography?